Community Guidelines

1. Purpose

Ask4Date exists to help people make genuine, heartfelt connections. Our platform is built on the belief that asking someone on a date is an act of courage that deserves respect — for both the person asking and the person being asked.

These Guidelines define the boundaries of acceptable use. They apply to all users, including Creators (those who send proposals) and Recipients (those who receive them). Violations may result in account suspension or permanent ban.

2. What Is Allowed

• Sending sincere, respectful date proposals to people you know personally
• Using all available tones — Romantic, Funny, Chill, Rizz — as intended
• Including a personal message that reflects your genuine feelings
• Sending proposals in any of the 20+ supported languages
• Using the platform for creative, thoughtful, one-on-one invitations
• Scheduling proposals to be sent at a specific time for a special occasion

3. What Is Not Allowed

Harassment & intimidation

• Sending proposals to someone who has explicitly asked you not to contact them
• Sending multiple proposals to the same person after a clear rejection
• Using the platform to threaten, coerce, or intimidate anyone
• Sending proposals designed to humiliate or publicly shame someone

Inappropriate content

• Any sexual content involving persons under 18
• Explicit sexual propositions to strangers
• Hate speech based on race, ethnicity, religion, gender, sexual orientation, or disability
• Content that promotes violence or illegal activities

Deception & impersonation

• Creating a proposal while pretending to be someone else
• Using fake names or identities to mislead the recipient
• Sending proposals on behalf of another person without their knowledge and consent

Platform abuse

• Creating multiple accounts to bypass the free invitation limit
• Using automated tools, bots, or scripts to create proposals in bulk
• Attempting to reverse-engineer or scrape the platform
• Reselling, redistributing, or commercializing the platform or its outputs

4. Proposal Content Rules

The personal message field (optional) is a space for genuine, personal expression. When writing your message:

• Keep it authentic — write from your heart, not to impress an algorithm
• Avoid graphic sexual language — the platform is for date invitations, not explicit messaging
• Do not include personal information about the recipient (address, workplace, daily routine) in a way that could feel threatening or surveillance-like
• Do not make ultimatums or conditional statements that pressure the recipient

AI-generated content is filtered for appropriateness. If the AI produces something unexpected, you can regenerate or use the fallback text. The final proposal is sent under your name — you are responsible for its content.

Photos

On the Single+ and Pack+ plans you can put a picture of yourself on the first page of the invitation. Three rules, and none of them is negotiable:

• Upload a photo of yourself. Not a friend, not your recipient, not a stranger, not a public figure. If someone else appears in it, you need their agreement.
• Nobody under 18, in any photo, ever. This is the one rule where there is no benefit of the doubt and no appeal to context.
• Nothing sexual, graphic or hateful. It is a date invitation, and the person receiving it did not ask to be shown anything else.

Every upload is checked automatically before it is stored, and anything that does not pass is refused and never saved. That check is not the limit of the rule: we remove pictures that break these Guidelines whether or not an automated check caught them, and an account that uploads a photo of a minor is closed and reported to the authorities.

5. Respect for Recipients

Recipients have the right to decline without explanation. A "No" answer — or no answer at all — must be respected immediately and unconditionally.

• Do not contact a recipient through other channels to pressure them after they decline on Ask4Date
• Recipient data (email address, if provided) is used solely to deliver the proposal — it may not be extracted, stored externally, or used for other purposes
• The platform collects recipient preferences (slot, activity) on behalf of the Creator. This data is confidential and must not be shared without the recipient's knowledge

Recipients who feel unsafe or harassed by a proposal can report it directly through our Safety report form.

6. Anti-Abuse Policy

Free plan protections

The free plan is limited to one invitation per user. We use email address, IP address, and browser fingerprint to enforce this limit. Attempting to circumvent these checks by using VPNs, different browsers, or multiple email addresses constitutes a violation of these Guidelines and our Terms of Service.

Rate limiting

All API endpoints are rate-limited to protect the platform and its users from automated abuse. Repeated violations of rate limits may result in IP-level blocks.

Email sending

Sending proposal emails is limited to paid plans. Sending unsolicited proposal emails to people you do not know constitutes spam and is a violation of these Guidelines as well as applicable anti-spam laws (including the EU's ePrivacy Directive).

7. Enforcement

Depending on the severity and frequency of violations, we may take the following actions:

We do not actively monitor the content of proposals. Enforcement is primarily triggered by user reports and automated detection of policy violations.

8. Reporting a Violation

If you encounter content or behavior that violates these Guidelines:

• Safety issues (harassment, threats): Safety report form — we prioritize these and aim to respond within 24 hours.
• General violations: Support form
• Photos: if a picture of you is being used without your permission, or a picture shows someone under 18, use the safety report form and include the invitation link. You do not need an account to report one. We remove the picture, and the invitation if necessary, and we act on these before anything else.
• Child sexual abuse material or other serious illegal content: report it directly to esc_ABUZ — the Romanian reporting line run by Salvați Copiii with the General Inspectorate of the Romanian Police, and Romania's member of the INHOPE network — or to your local law enforcement, as well as telling us.

All reports are confidential. We do not disclose reporter identity to the reported user.